7 Nigerian Women Share The Exact Moment They Fell In Love With Their Partners

October 26, 2020

Loving someone starts from somewhere. That single moment when you realise that you actually love this fool you’re with. For some women, they could date a person and only realise they love them after months in the relationship. For others, it’s instantaneous. Today, 7 Nigerian women tell us the first time they realised they were in love with their partner(s).

1. Hannah and her health hero

I was 8 months into my relationship when I became very ill. When I spoke to my partner on the phone, I didn’t want to stress him because I knew he had so much work to do. After taking a fevered nap, I woke up to several missed calls from him. Apparently, he had become so worried when he couldn’t reach me so he ditched work and came to my building. When I saw him, he looked so worried that it broke my heart. He spent the day running around getting things for me. At that moment, I realised that I love him and I was done mooning over my ex. We’ve been together for 2 years now.

2. Dorcas and her love affair

Currently having an affair and loving it. So, I have two love stories and funny enough, the second one exists because of the inadequacy of the first. For my husband, I realised that I loved him when I got pregnant for him out of wedlock and wanted to keep it. Before him, I have had 2 abortions for two different exes. He felt like a safe option at the time.

For my affair, he is the first person I have been with after 10 years of being married to my husband. He makes me come alive and the sex is electric. I think it was mid-orgasm that I realise that I love him enough to risk my marriage for him.

3. Cynthia and her glucose guardian

My partner is a married man but his family doesn’t stay in the country. I think I love the fact that he spoils me silly. I can’t think of one thing I really want that he doesn’t give me. The first time I realised that I might love this man was last year when I casually mentioned that I have never been to the abroad and he surprised me 2 months later with a trip to Dubai. I know it’s futile loving a married man but we only live once and I don’t want to feel guilty for enjoying myself.

4. Aisha and her love for potential

I’m not sure about the moment I fell in love or I cannot remember. There’s no aha moment. But it was a build-up of many things. We talked consistently over many weeks on the phone. You know when you talk to someone every day, there’s a huge chance that you become fond of them, or start to like them even. Then we agreed fundamentally on a couple of things which made it more exciting – feminism, storytelling etc. And then I saw potential in him to become rich in a couple of years.

I guess that’s it.

5. Martha and her 3 lovers

I am currently in love with 3 men but I am in a relationship with two of them. The moment I realised that I love man number one was when we had unprotected sex. I have never done that before him. It made me realise that only love can make me take such a silly risk.

I realised that I love man number 2 when I risked my life to make a journey to Kaduna. Normally, I am a selfish lover so for me to go to a state of unrest to see man, I knew that cupid was working overtime.

I realised that I love man number 3 when I initiated the relationship between us. I am very attractive person and I am so used to men doing the chasing. So, for me to make a move, I think I’m in love.

6. Rhoda and her dad bod man

I am attracted to beautiful men. I work out a lot and have a great body so I have never pictured myself with someone who didn’t look fit. It was 5 months into the relationship that a friend pointed out that my man has a dad bod. I didn’t even notice. I had to spend time looking at my man again and it hit me that I actually love this person so much that I dropped my strict rule for him. With him, I don’t notice anything else but his kindness and willingness to make me happy. We’ve been together for over a year and I couldn’t be happier.

7. Temi and her cheater bae

My father was a serial cheater and had so many children with so many women. I saw the pain he put my mom through so I mentally decided to never accept a cheating partner. I was with my partner for 3 months before finding out he cheated on me with his colleague. Before him, I had sworn to leave any man who cheats on me. With him, I found myself hoping he’d ask for forgiveness so we can get back together. He did and we are together again. That was when I realised that I might actually love this man.

No, his name is not Femi.


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